Here is an interesting post from Christian Piatt about making friends with young adults. He describes the experience that he and his wife, Amy, had when they first started a new church in Pueblo, Colorado a few years ago. They thought that, since they were young adults, that other young adults would be interested in coming to worship with them. That’s not what happened. The first people who actually accepted their invitation, came and stayed in the new church were mostly adults over 65. Unlike many young adults, these older adults already had experience with being in church and coming to worship. Christian and Amy discovered that it is best to make friends with young adults first, and then invite them to worship. Here’s some of what Christian says:
“For young adults, the idea of participating in worship was a major commitment. After all, they either didn’t know any of the songs and rituals, or they represented a host of negative feelings from their past. To start there for them would be a setup for failure.
So we had coffee – a lot of coffee. We invited people over for dinner, or took them out for a beer. We chatted with younger folks through Facebook, added them to email list apprising them of upcoming social and service-oriented events we were planning. Basically, we just made ourselves available to them as friends first, allowing a more three-dimensional relationship to develop first, so that they could come to trust that we weren’t the same breed as the religious folks they had known in the past or from the media.”
Hmm. I wonder what my congregation and I need to be doing in our local situation. We have so much love to offer people of all ages.
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